My Lingo

The following are my take on terms I use from time to time to often and how I define them in for my writing.

Active Domination: The things a dominant brings to the table in the relationship between them and their slave. These are the things that make a slave feel dominated. This is not only the physical manifestations often involving kinky things but just in general the day to day things where a dominant exercises his control and power on their slave. Words, orders, decision making and other things that cause a slave to adjust her normal thoughts and actions.

Chest Thumper: They want to let people know just how superior they are to others and will insert this practically in any communication. A chest thumper is a person who inserts judgments or communicates one-way truisms into as much communication as possible to directly communicate that people not like him are losers and they are special.

The typical example of a chest thumper is a dominant who will claim that to be a “true” Master it takes years of experience which they just happens to have.

Cool factor: A reason for a person to over romanticize themselves, their other, their relationships or within their writing have judged others based on some sort of coolness/what is better type scale. This coolness scale is denied by everyone sane but many people will write based on thinking that others believe this scale is out there. Ex) People who say they are a no limit slave, people who think Slave is better then submissive who is better then a bottom and people who get irrational about others doing an act that is a hard limit for them.

Cyber theorist: A person who writes in absolute tones theories and judgments from a vacuum of cyberspace that have no accuracy when taking into real life and real human beings. Ex) “Slave should have only one desire and that is to please their owner.”

Dictionary Dynamo: This is a person from either gender or role who takes one or several definitions from a dictionary that conveniently back up a point they are trying to make. I have a friend who calls these people vacuum professors as they require suspension of common sense and basic intelligence and a complete lack of grasps of how the real world operates in order for it to have any semblance of practical reality.

The ultimate classic example of this is of course the person who types out a definition of the word slave out of a dictionary. Those people are easy to spot and ignore.

Dominant Disease: The habit to communicate and for the worse case believe that their way is the only true way. That they know everything and they communicate in a style and tone that a college professor might talk to an elementary student. Pretty much repeat the same thing in all communications. 1) Blame is always the submissive’s fault or the dominant is incompetent. 2) This is what they do and they never ever have had a problem like this.

Can often be confused with cyber theorists but these people have experience and their words have usually merit in some regard to being totally wise. More often then not it is their tone not the message that punctures their credibility.

IM addicts: People who spend much of their free time at home with their laptop on and IM open talking to anyone who might be out there. At some point they have developed a horrendously mistaken belief that most people do the same thing. The truth is of course only a very small percentage and even a smaller percentage of men are like this and most people either do not IM at all or only out of necessity. So often any attempt to join the regular world is met with bad results as they cannot comprehend people not wanting to spend hours a day IM’ing them as a main form of communication.

Kinks: My shorthand and many others that sum up the things you will find in many of our relationships that you will not in regular ones. This is not just pertaining to specific kinky things that we may do but will use the term to include those and things like discipline sessions, punishments, rules and rituals.

Example: The kinks of this life take a lot less time then regular life in our relationships.

Role Playing: This is not about when playing around but when people in either role are not themselves but try to act like they think they should be or more often how they think the other expects them to be. More often then not done subconsciously but when a bulk of the relationship, whether the power exchange dynamic or not, is being roled played by someone conclusion will only be bad.

Classic symptom of a role player is a dominant that slowly stops playing with their submissive. It is not that they lose interest in the person but it just takes too much energy to be and do things that are not them. The play zaps energy while a person not role playing the play should often give them energy.

Self fulfilling prophecy: People getting back exactly what they are complaining or worry about. Classic example is males claiming all the females are insincere or fake in the life. The reality is because they are so negative and accusatory whether directly in their communication or the bile they have in an online profile that only the insincere and fake are wanting anything to do with them.

Slave transference: This is basically the indirect way of chest thumping. It is when a submissive in as much communication as possible expresses and interjects their dominant into everything to be the most perfect human being and dominant alive. What they are really doing is feeding their poor self esteem by wanting everyone to make the connection of if my dominant is perfect and picked me then I must be great as well.