Is there inordinate amount of victims of abuse in this life?

I do not think they is a much higher percentage of people who are drawn to this life because of past abuse, especially when a child, but I leave open there might be some higher percentage.

This thought gets perpetuated by anecdotal evidence. Ask the question in a message board or chat room and see all the people, especially women submissives respond they were. This can lead to this conclusion which is quite unscientific and not an accurate reflection.

The sad truth is that there are scientific surveys out that as many as 50% of women have had an incident of sexual and physical abuse in their lives. You can ask any group of women this question and if answered honestly would raise your eyes and could draw a poor conclusion. The other factor is we hide behind our computer screens safe from having to confront others. This makes it much easier to step forward and communicate you were abused. Even if the subject comes up in a local community event it still is far easier to discuss it there then other regular places then most. The atmosphere and what we share with others in these venues just lends itself to be open on subjects we might not normally be open to.

There are different types of abuses and along with different personalities means different reactions. Ongoing abuse versus one or a few traumatic experience and when did they take place. The reason why I am open to the possibility to a slightly higher percentage is for one reason. In cases where there is ongoing abuse during childhood that often can destroy boundaries and take simple joys away from them. I do not think this drives them to power exchange or kinky sex but I think these people who have a natural desire in them can in some ways help them because they might struggle less in breaking free from the societal preaching that can be so difficult.

All of us are on a journey and certainly are life experiences have an impact in our lives. But to say abuse made one submissive or into kinky sex out of anecdotal evidence is too far of a leap. For every no boundary rush into the life abuse victim there could easily be one petrified of taking chances withdrawing from the world. Next time you see five women together you can probably guess that at least two have been abused in some way. But you would never assume two were into this life.