To tell you the truth I have no clue.
Personally I have come to the conclusion that it there are three factors that go into something being labeled “edge play” by someone.
1) Play that not enough people involved in local communities are into or willing to admit their into so there are few discussions and not done at play parties and demonstrations.
2) For a certain percentage of dominants and submissives who get off on thinking they are cooler, more competent and maybe better then others it sure sounds cool to call certain types of play “edge” play.
3) Hey we like to label things so it might as well be called something.
Is edge play actually edge play/out the edge of safety?
Very easy answer, no!
Now you will find few to admit that because of the cool factor. It is cool for the ones into such things to call it that and it is cool for those who a thing that is labeled edge play that is a limit to call it edge play to infer too dangerous. The fact is pretty much every kinky thing and for that matter most things we do in life has a danger to them. I have to admit as an RN to not knowing why something like scat play is any more dangerous then any type of S&M play and for that matter most kinky with sane people and would argue strongly a lot less riskier then if you are a smoker, way out of shape, ride motorcycles, jump out of perfectly working airplane. I could go on and on but you get the picture hopefully.
So like all things in life, edge play is only dangerous if you are with an idiot, insane or who cares about researching and go slowly full speed a head person. I would use the same description with anything we do as human beings that has potential risks. Just because it is not openly discussed in your local community and there are no seminars or live demonstrations does not make it any more dangerous.
So do not decide kinky play that works for you by others. Whether wanting to be cool and explore everything so you can be “better” then others with more limits, a dominant who wants to chest thump they have mastered everything or those who only do things they have seen others do.
Edge play is just a term do not get caught up with the colorful meaning that people often assign to it. A simple good rule of thumb is to think, study and move slowly with all things you decide to take on and does not matter what label others give it.
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- I am a thirty-four year old slave in a severe power exchange relationship and I am married to my wonderful Master William. I have been in relationships as a slave for most of my adult life. I am also a complete human being and in the real world I am a RN, have friends and very close to my family. I am Asian hence my name on this blog. I was born in Taipei, Taiwan and did not move to America until I was seven and from then on still spent significant time back in Taiwan. I was raised in a very strong Eastern cultured home but was still taught to embrace America. This obviously has a deep impact on my life but does not define it.
Common terms I use defined:
Cyber theorist: A person who writes in absolute tones theories and judgments from a vacuum of cyberspace that have no accuracy when taking into real life and real human beings. Ex) “Slave should have only one desire and that is to please their owner.”
Cool factor: A reason for a person to over romanticize themselves, their other, their relationships or within their writing have judged others based on some sort of coolness/what is better type scale. This coolness scale is denied by everyone sane but many people will write based on thinking that others believe this scale is out there. Ex) People who say they are a no limit slave, people who think Slave is better then submissive who is better then a bottom and people who get irrational about others doing an act that is a hard limit for them.
Cool factor: A reason for a person to over romanticize themselves, their other, their relationships or within their writing have judged others based on some sort of coolness/what is better type scale. This coolness scale is denied by everyone sane but many people will write based on thinking that others believe this scale is out there. Ex) People who say they are a no limit slave, people who think Slave is better then submissive who is better then a bottom and people who get irrational about others doing an act that is a hard limit for them.
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