Young Dominants

Why do so many women avoid dominants that are significantly younger especially ones in their early twenties?

Now I often feel disclaimers are mere attempts to get out of trouble from writing things but I sincerely offer up this one. Many women can like much younger men and that can include power exchange women. But that is up to the individual woman.

Women are like men when it comes to relationships for the most part they will either look for something casual or something serious. But the fact is a much higher percentage of women are looking for something long term even when pretending often to just themselves they are just wanting casual.

Young dominant are often in a bind as they often have less experience to go along with not in the same life stage. So the simple fact is combine the wanting or fooling oneself into casual but really serious, common life stage things and experience for pure casual can be an important factor this can often make young dominants less attractive even in casual relationships.

Why not interested in long term?

One of the cruel tricks in how men and women are wired for the most part is an unfortunate opposite. Women tend to be attracted to men who are their age or older to a certain degree while men are attracted to women their age or younger for the most part. Look at any personal site and see 90%+ of the age preference for both will bear this out.

Long term relationships are tough and when they blow up take time to heal from. Quite simply every failed relationship a woman has that there was significant time spent before during and after the relationship that adds to serious time. Older women often do not have the luxury of wasting time in relationships that may not go anywhere. I always use the analogy of a woman only having a gun with six bullets in it. We cannot just shoot it randomly and see where it goes because we quickly run out of bullets.

Older women have been through their younger years and been with men of that age. We do know life changes us and our priorities. It has really little to do with maturity as one big concept but maturity as a bunch of smaller ones. Quite simply what a person thinks and wants in their early twenties can change quite drastically. So no matter how mature a young man might think he is most women just do not feel they can afford to use a bullet on them.

Is it fair?

Life has nothing to do with being fair. Can a young man be a spectacular owner, heck yes! Can a young man be mature enough in many things, sure. But there is more to life then the specific M/s relationship stuff and the ability to have a career.

While it may not be “fair” for younger men compared to younger females who usually can have their pick of any age males this inequality swings the other way as we get older. Older men are able to attract women from many ages while older women our options become fewer and fewer.

Remember there is more to power exchange relationships then skill or experience level and that these are relationships. If not compatible in all the other many things the relationship is not going to work. It is wise for all of us any age to remember this and not just focus on the physical aspects and only the power exchange type things.