It is unfortunate that many people in the power exchange life and especially we submissives tend to abuse the word trust to where it can lose all meaning. People in power exchange relationships are regular people and does not make us perfect. Not every thing that goes wrong or a do me wrong thing by our other is a trust destroying thing.
The short answer of can trust be rebuilt is to ask yourself in previous relationships and not just romantic ones but friendships and co-worker stuff if trust was broken did you learn to trust the other person again. This life is not special from that and we will not be different. Some of us can sometimes trust again and some of us never trust again when it gets broken.
But if you are looking for more of a gray answer to me to think about trusting again if broken comes down to me as what was behind the event in terms of the person. To me there are two possibilities.
Character defect: If the trust was broken because the person has shown to be consistently defective in the area that is was broken in then the chances are slim to nil that trust can ever return. People do not change! They can bring out things that have been hidden or work at reducing or enhancing something that pretty much is about it when you get with an adult.
For example if a person lied to you and it caused some huge problem. If the person has a history of lying to get something they are just not going to stop that behavior.
Mistake or misunderstanding: If trust was broken because two people were not on the same page, something went wrong with no one really at thought or expectations of doing something were not met, these are the things that I often stumble across in this life. Someone doing something that caused you problems and even big problems does not mean they are at fault for breaking trust.
Now if you cannot trust you cannot trust. It is a feeling and not some judgment. But if you have a history of trusting again and forgiving there no reason that with some time and communication that things like this cannot be overcome.
People are not perfect and not agreeing with you is not a trust breaking crime. A few missed phone calls should not be a trust breaker if they have always been reliable in the past. A scene that went too far can just be a scene that went too far if it is not either first time and especially if you have been together for awhile. If it means starting over in going slower to trust then that should be considered.
In general if trust is broken out tracing back the source as a character defect of the other or just two people that are not compatible then it will be close to impossible to trust again. People do not change just because they want something to work out. But if it is just some isolated incident then one must think first if they are able to trust again and then what can be done for it to happen if they want to.
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- I am a thirty-four year old slave in a severe power exchange relationship and I am married to my wonderful Master William. I have been in relationships as a slave for most of my adult life. I am also a complete human being and in the real world I am a RN, have friends and very close to my family. I am Asian hence my name on this blog. I was born in Taipei, Taiwan and did not move to America until I was seven and from then on still spent significant time back in Taiwan. I was raised in a very strong Eastern cultured home but was still taught to embrace America. This obviously has a deep impact on my life but does not define it.
Common terms I use defined:
Cyber theorist: A person who writes in absolute tones theories and judgments from a vacuum of cyberspace that have no accuracy when taking into real life and real human beings. Ex) “Slave should have only one desire and that is to please their owner.”
Cool factor: A reason for a person to over romanticize themselves, their other, their relationships or within their writing have judged others based on some sort of coolness/what is better type scale. This coolness scale is denied by everyone sane but many people will write based on thinking that others believe this scale is out there. Ex) People who say they are a no limit slave, people who think Slave is better then submissive who is better then a bottom and people who get irrational about others doing an act that is a hard limit for them.
Cool factor: A reason for a person to over romanticize themselves, their other, their relationships or within their writing have judged others based on some sort of coolness/what is better type scale. This coolness scale is denied by everyone sane but many people will write based on thinking that others believe this scale is out there. Ex) People who say they are a no limit slave, people who think Slave is better then submissive who is better then a bottom and people who get irrational about others doing an act that is a hard limit for them.
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