What is up with collars?

Collars and more importantly people’s view of collars might have more different opinions then the classic difference between a sub and a slave debate. The truth is a collar’s meaning is entirely up to the couple.

People in 24/7 relationships can range from a slave not having anything that identifies them as a slave to them let alone anyone else to a slave that has a collar that they wear 24/7 and consider that collar and if there was some sort of ceremony to be far more special then say a wedding ring and ceremony. I got to know a very nice dominant when looking for my new owner who had a system of six collars for a slave. Each collar represented a specific stage and a level of control and commitment.

The only thing I do not get, and this is a have to agree to disagree situation for dominants that do this, but the whole begging for a collar and a slave being put under consideration when these two things apply when both people are working on being in a long term 24/7 power exchange relationship. I do not see how a slave would being willing to commit if they did not know in their brain and heart their Master did not feel the same way about them as they do about him. I also think it is sad that a dominant would need to “consider” if they want such a thing.

This to me just reeks of self esteem issues on the basis of the dominant needs to feel that the slave needs him more then the dominant needs the slave. I just think if you need power from that angle then the relationship is already in trouble. When thinking about this I always just imagine if a man proposed to a woman in the regular world and she would respond “Well keep on begging and sucking up to me and we will see” what would be everyone’s reaction and opinion.

But in the end a collar can be nothing more then a tool to hook a leash to or help in a bondage situation all the way to a power exchange couple who treat a collar like regular people treat a wedding ring. To each their own and whatever works best is up to the people involved and not any this is how we do things in this life thing.